Some Things Just Cannot Be Changed

Positivity No Negativity Challenge

Day 69 of 84

One of the most important aspects of getting positive and staying positive is accepting who you are, right now. I often hear people talk about doing something special when they lose weight, or that they will be successful when they are able to move away from home, or that they will start a family when they have a lot of money saved.

Then there are the people who wish they were older, or that they were born into a different family. Certain family members irritate them and then they don’t speak for several years. It’s so sad. I’m sure you know of someone who hasn’t talked to his brother in the past ten years because of a difference of opinion that no one can even remember now. And yet they don’t speak, each one determined to keep face and just ignore the fact that this person is his brother.

We can change our attitudes, but we can’t change who is our brother or sister!

You know, there are certain things in life that are ‘unchangeable’, and until you accept them, you will not be able to be a happy and positive person. You’ll always be wishing you were someone else.

Here are some of them:

Your parents. There’s nothing you can do to change who your parents are. No matter where you go or what you become, you will always have the same parents, whether you like it or not; whether you are proud of them or not.

Your brothers and sisters. You might not speak to them for a long period of time; they might irritate you, but they will still be a part of you, and you will share traits with them.

Your nationality. I am Canadian, but my heritage is Lebanese. When I was young I wished I was just Canadian and ate all the same foods as my friends. As an adult I realized I couldn’t change that fact any more than I could change my family. Now I am proud to be Lebanese.

Your mental capacity. Each of us is unique and we each have talents and capacities that not everyone else has. In my family, everyone plays the piano except me. All five of us had the same opportunity in taking piano lessons when we were young but as much as I practiced and wanted to become a good piano player, it just didn’t happen. Finally I had to accept that my talents leaned more in the creative arts, like writing and creating things, and not in playing an instrument.

Your aging and death. The Bible says, “…it is appointed for men to die once…” Heb 9:27. I guess there’s not much we can control about that, as much as we would like to. It gives us all the more reason to live our lives fully and in acceptance of what cannot be changed.


So those are some of our unchangeables. They are unchangeable because we cannot change them. However there are some things we can change. We can change our hair color and style; we can lose or gain weight and we can change the way we dress. Very importantly, we can change our attitude.

We can choose every day to have a positive attitude or a negative attitude. It’s all up to us.

Today I am grateful:

1. For an early morning chat

2. For rain

3. For the sandwich and coffee that is waiting for me right now

4. For someone who understands and accepts the life I have lived

5. For a quiet day at home

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