Positively No Negativity Challenge
Day 57 of 84
Do you remember when learning to drive a car, being taught about the blind spot? A visual blind spot is the area around the vehicle that cannot be directly observed by the driver while at the controls, under existing circumstances. So to drive safely, you have to turn your head in order to see whether or not there is a vehicle in your blind spot before changing lanes or turning. Failure to do this has resulted in many car accidents.
The tricky thing about a blind spot is that we are blind to it.
In the same way we have to be aware of visual blind spots, there are also psychological blind spots that play a large role in how we relate to the world. Because they are ‘blind’ spots, we don’t usually see them, but others do. They are aspects of our personalities such as annoying habits, like interrupting or bragging, or they might be deeper fears that we don’t, or won’t acknowledge. It is not always pleasant, but usually very beneficial to confront these aspects of ourselves.
Recently a reader pointed out something to me.
“I noticed, as one of your buddies from the Internet that I am, you start worrying before an event. Then you share it and we all wish you well, and most times things work out well…”
Ouch! Talk about a light bulb moment.
I realized that it was true! I started thinking about what he said and I realized that this blind spot, this fatalistic, self-defeating attitude has contributed to my negativity time and again. I realized that some of the things I have worried about in the past couple of months have not come to pass. It’s as if I needed to have a ‘worry time’ to validate whatever it was that I was concerned about. If I worry about a family member it would show that I love them. If I worry about a situation it would show that I am 100% there.
Why not believe the best and hope for the best, and if the best doesn’t happen, then deal with it at that time?
One of my favorite passages of Scripture is the Sermon on the Mount which is the place of most of Jesus’ greatest teachings. In it he gives a blueprint for a good life. His words about worry struck home to me today:
Matt6:27 “Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature…34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”
And replace negative worry with positive, live-giving thoughts.
Do you have some psychological blind spots? Would you be willing to hear what others might say if you asked them to name some?
Today I am thankful:
1. For my friend who pointed out a blind spot
2. For a most delightful and love-filled Christmas Day
3. For a Skype call with my son who could not be with us in person
4. That my concussed son was able to enjoy most of the day with us
5. For my sweet daughter-in-love