How Could You Stay In A Relationship Like That?

Positivity No Negativity Challenge

Day 23 of 84

 Would you stay in a relationship with someone even though you know it is not good for you? Does that person tell you every day that you just aren’t good enough and that you will probably never be good enough because you just aren’t worth it? Does the relationship break you down emotionally and spiritually? Does it make you sad? Have you been in that relationship for years and years?

What would you tell someone you love who is in a relationship like that? I know I would tell them to get out as fast as they can before they are permanently damaged. They don’t need that kind of negativity in their lives.

But what if the relationship is with yourself?

I have been in a relationship like that for a long time. As this Positively No Negativity Challenge ramps up, I have become much more aware of the things I tell myself. I have started to write them down in a notebook in an effort to become more aware, and believe me it’s not pretty. Being aware of my negative self-talk is the first step to replacing it with more affirmative statements.

I’m finding that getting the negativity out has more to do with words and thoughts than anything else. Sure, its often easy to remove oneself from negative people or to turn off negative things on the TV, but its not so easy to get away from myself. As the old saying goes, “Wherever I go, there I am.” Its just a fact of life that in order to be a great partner, friend, sister or mother I first have to be more kind, tenderhearted and forgiving to myself, just as I would like to be to others. Scripture reminds me of this:

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”  Ephesians 4:32

Today I am happy and grateful for:

1. A text from my son that said, “Lol I love you Mother.”

2. The first few flakes of snow on my car

3. A good snuggle before getting out of bed

4. My first pumpkin spice latte

5. A full day and evening to look forward to.




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