A Cuss Jar Can Change Your Life

Positively No Negativity Challenge

Day 22 of 84

There is a frame that has hung in my house since time immemorial. It was bought when my children were young and we were trying to instill some wholesome principles into their lives. Back then, the frame hung in a prominent place but in recent years it has been relegated to the basement. I hauled it out the other day and pondered on its words:

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Choose your words, for they become actions. Understand your actions, for they become habits. Study your habits, for they become your character.

Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

So it all starts with our thoughts. And they become our words, and ultimately our destiny. Hmmm.

I have a confession to make: I am a former cusser. Yes, me. I didn’t plan to start out like that but there it is. During the time I raised my children I would never cuss, but once they had moved out, my language started to match the language of the people around me. If they cussed, I cussed. If they didn’t cuss, I didn’t cuss. I know that shows a lack of character on my part but that’s what I did.

You know, cussing is just another word for cursing or swearing. When you put it like that, its not so cute, is it? And it is so negative.

I noticed that cussing changed the atmosphere in the house and it changed my thoughts. You could say the atmosphere in the house became blue and my thoughts became very dark. All because of a little ‘cuss’.

In an effort to become a more positive person, I asked Dave if we could put a cuss jar on the counter and put 50 cents in it for every cuss, curse, swear, whatever you want to call it. In the first couple of days the clink of quarters in that jar was ashamedly frequent, but as time passed, the jar started to collect dust. Who wants to part with money? Not me!


And as the cuss jar became silent, the atmosphere in the house, along with my thoughts became light, kind, joyful and positive. There is about enough money in there for a coffee and muffin for each of us. I guess that is better than having enough for a gourmet meal!

Imagine, it all started with a little change in words. Are your words, and by consequence your thoughts keeping you in a negative mode? How can you make a change?

Today I am happy and grateful for:

1. A lovely ‘chat’ with my newfound cousin last evening

2. My son is doing better after his accident

3. Another son has found a new job

4. A new atmosphere in the house that both Dave and I support

5. Coffee with an inspiring woman from my church






2 thoughts on “A Cuss Jar Can Change Your Life

  1. Powerful, awesome, keep up the good work! Glad to hear your son is doing better, what was his accident?


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