Empty Nestedness Is A Good Thing


Positively No Negativity Challenge

Day 16 of 84

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When is a parent’s job ever really done? Eighteen months ago I left my youngest son on a university campus to embark on his life. He was happy and so was I. But then I got home and couldn’t go into his bedroom for several weeks because I missed him so much. It was a turning point in my life, and his also.

We both did well that first year, once I adjusted to him not being around. He came home a few times and after each visit I was able to let him go a little more…until the day he said to me, “My financial situation is no longer your concern.”

That was a rough day. I cried and fretted and worried about him. I wondered what was wrong with him, that he didn’t want me involved in his finances. My husband wondered what was wrong with me that I couldn’t see this as a positive thing. He and several other people told me I should be rejoicing because now my son wanted to take care of his own finances. He was trying to pull away and be more independent and I was clinging to his childhood.

And then I considered several friends of mine who drained themselves financially in order to pay for their children’s educations. Here was my son offering me this gift and I was crying because he didn’t need me.

Oh brother.

My negative self saw the glass as being half empty. Isn’t the goal of parenthood to see your children grow up, be successful and independent in the world? I guess I still see my kids in a different light.

Who knows, maybe one day I will depend on them.

Today I am happy and grateful for:

1. Aquafina water while on the road (it’s the best)

2. Another ‘sun splitting the rocks’ beautiful day

3. Finding a cache of lovely pans for my Divorce Fudge!

4. A husband who humors me when I am negative

5. A God who blesses my life every day

One thought on “Empty Nestedness Is A Good Thing

  1. Your kids will always want you,there’s no fear of that! The tears start pouring the day they get married and you begin to think they’ll never want you but Thank God they still do.I think as parents ,we never want them to leave the nest.It’s a good thing they are wiser than us!

    Hugs,
    Raylene

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