Ten years later, in 2004, my marriage was over, and I moved house with the children. I had all but forgotten my friends from St FX, and so much time had passed that it had never occurred to me to contact any of them. Besides, I figured that after such a long absence of contact, none of them would be interested in hearing from me. Living in a French town and not working made it virtually impossible to have a social life. I lived in my little house, substitute taught at a school nearby, and took care of my kids. And then in 2005 I was introduced to Internet dating as a way to meet people. I joined the Christian Café and this became my social life. I was Treacle, from “Une Petite Ville Francaise”, Quebec. I met lots of men and women online, but very few of them lived in Quebec. Actually in addition to Christian Café, I joined Lavalife, Lavalife Prime, Plenty of Fish, Christian Mingle and others. Sometimes I would have three chat rooms and instant messaging going on all at the same time. It was fun, but at the end of the day I was still alone in my little cookie cutter house in Deux Montagnes, and all of my new friends were just virtual friends.
The problem with these sites is that most of the people on them were needy or deficient in some way, just like me. I really wasn’t ready for much, but the attention I got on these sites was a confidence boost. Stories? I could tell you stories about people I met and experiences I had as a result of these sites, but that is material for a book…maybe somewhere down the line.
In around 2007 I heard of Facebook. My son told me that you had to be a university student to get on Facebook. I believed him until one of my friends told me that she was on there. So I put up a profile and started adding friends. Imagine my delight when I started getting friend requests from people that I hadn’t heard from in years. People from my hometown, Corner Brook, NL; people I had worked with; old university buddies: Judy, Rosie, Raylene, Eileen, Bob, Anna and others. And then in 2008 I received a friend request from my old friend Dave. We exchanged a couple of emails just updating each other on our respective lives. We laughed to hear that we each had had three children and a divorce! But at that time we were both entangled in other relationships, so a few emails was all the contact we had.
In the meantime, another friend who lived not far from Dave, in the Annapolis Valley started talking to me about Dave; I kept trying to tell her that Dave was in a relationship and so was I, but she just kept on. Little did I know that she was also talking to Dave about me!
To be continued….