“Not good enough” I said. “I want the “deets” “. So this time I got a page and a few tears. Seems that once his friends found out that I would be away for the week and that he would be staying at Dad’s, things got out of hand very quickly. News of Aaron’s party spread throughout the school like wildfire. At the end of it there were about fifteen young people attending, there was beer, pot, and for lack of something better to eat, dry Ramen soup. Somebody puked on my blanket. As the story went, he had appointed four friends to be “sargeants – at- arms”. Their job would be to make sure that no one, and I mean no one was allowed to go upstairs except for the bathroom. Also they would be the ones to stay behind and clean up the house afterwards. I have to say that they did an excellent job. They even washed my blanket!
So how, you might be wondering, did Aaron manage to pull this off without his father knowing? Well he told Dad that he was going to spend the night at his friend’s house. Dad didn’t think to call the friend’s father, and the friend said nothing of the sort to his dad. So Aaron was off the hook for the night.
But the question begs to be asked: Why was there a wrinkle in the pillow? Well, the four sargeants-at-arms were told that they had to spend the night at the house, and that they would be sleeping on the floor in the basement. One of them slept on my new pillow, hence the wrinkle and the grease.
There were a lot of lessons to be learned from Aaron’s party. Dad learned that you don’t take anything that a 14 year old tells you at face value. You check it out. Aaron learned that having a party is a lot of responsibility. Nothing went wrong, nothing was stolen, the house wasn’t trashed and nobody was hurt. But any and all of those things could have happened. I learned that my son needed tighter boundaries but also mercy from me.
Mercy in my definition is not getting what you deserve. Aaron did not get what he deserved. I figured he had learned his lesson all by himself.
And as I gained respect from my son, I also grew a few more grey hairs.